Most people agree that relationships can be one of the most aggravating, frustrating, and emotionally painful aspects of life, but also the most rewarding. Most people don’t realize that relationship struggles are heavily influenced by one’s own birth, simply because birth is the first major physical struggle. Life’s ordinary struggles become a manifestation of birth. As an example, Mary was a “shoulder dystocia” baby. This meant that her shoulder got “stuck” on the lumbar sacral promontory, her umbilical cord was compressed and closed between her body and the LSP, and long forceps had to be used to pull her out. Her mother believed that the forceps saved Mary’s life, because Mary came out blue and could not have lived much longer without oxygen.
As a young adult, Mary lived out her birth patterns, completely unconsciously. Having been without oxygen during birth, she described her attractions to men as “breathless” (when she became breathless, that was a sign she was in love). On top of this, she routinely got stuck and faltered. For example, during debriefings to her staff, she got stuck on one minor point to the exclusion of others, rambled too much, and was not able to complete all points in her debrief. She nearly lost her job because of this. In other situations, she became helpless and needed rescuing (forceps), a complete change from the competent woman she really was. She regularly lost her car keys and needed her boyfriend to rescue her by picking her up, or bringing her a rental car so she could finish her district visits. During social events, she occasionally but annoyingly lost her energy (oxygen) and needed to retire for the evening. The same type of thing happened in her intimate times with her boyfriend. She lost her orgasms just as they began, becoming extremely lethargic and falling asleep. Both of these symptoms were shameful, frustrating, and frightening to her, and is why she came for treatment. This kind of process happens regularly in everyday life, with everyone. Birth is a first and a primary life lesson!
Dr. Emerson leads three day workshops to help participants uncover their birth scripts, to explore the underlying distresses, to release traumatic energy, and find new ways of perceiving, feeling, and behaving. Participants with unresolved birth trauma will be lead on ‘inner journeys’ to explore and heal. Breakout groups reflecting various kinds of birth impacts will be organized, because learning the impacts helps to reduce their power. Finally, closure processes are used to integrate discoveries, and enable life changes.